True Purpose in Life

People say you'll not change your career at 30 that's when you're meant to be settling down you'll be able to not change your career at 35 you'd wish to possess had it revealed by then oh my god you are not married at 38 what the hell are you doing together with your life who comes up with these things I've got no idea but this stuff played numerous folks that I speak to such an oversized amount of people open up to me and say Jay.

I just do not know the due to change is it possible what do I feel this guy was before he became who he's  to be a PE teacher right sports teacher at a high school how about her she was a telemarketer for 2 weeks how about her she applied to be a talented worker.

It's incredible what happens in societies that were clouded by the noise the noise of family expectations the noise of our parents the noise of our brothers and sisters expectations I grew up in an exceedingly family where you'll either be a doctor a lawyer or a failure right those are my three options anything would just count me as a failure.

I would have felt so basically I felt right I'm standing over here before you all as a failure I lived as a monk for 3 years I committed career suicide I turned down two amazing corporate job offers once I graduated from school I shaved my hair I wore robes and lived out the gym locker for 3 years which I did that because i believed i accustomed be going to do something meaningful helping back the earth and it had been one altogether.

The best experiences of my life but quite becoming a monk one that trained me to undertake to to was drop out of the foundations people told me if you're available three years you never get employment they told me if you become among people gonna think you're weird forever no girls ever gonna sit down with you people told me they were they were like well after you come to world like will you even be able to talk English that individuals just really weird it out right okay.

I think monks speak English and also there was such plenty different noise that I accustomed be hearing after I made that call and also the funny thing is from having not been for four years now I'm in one in every of the most incredible periods of my life that.

I can ever imagine then much of that's supported the actual undeniable fact that i made a option to do and do something different such an outsized amount of the days our expectations are driving us in an exceedingly certain scenario we focus such plenty on life in what we'd value more highly to be as hostile who we'd like because we've always been told that life and jobs and careers are like boxes and containers there's only a finite number of options there's not any formula there's not any pattern do i do know what you're obsessed to if you recognize what you're good at and you invest therein people say follow.

Your passions I say forget that invest in your passion if you're obsessive about something go and become the foremost effective that I'm going into a course thereon go and learn from the sole real go and find a mentor who's gonna cause you to incredible at that trade not only will you be criticized and grow you'll be ready to find new things about yourself that you just simply just never knew don't trade who you're for who you're thinking that that the world needs because the globe needs you to be.

You which I mean I accustomed be a 19 year old kid which accustomed be miserable I accustomed be dotty with my high school sweetheart we were that couple that was really annoying so we visited school together we signed up for classes together we shared a U-Haul on the thanks to school together we lived within the identical dorm together we walked to class we walked to breakfast within the morning and walk the category thing I mean we were just joined at the hip which we were completely crazy and pachu acted gaga then halfway through the primary year of college she discovered beer and other boys on the identical night and he or she cheated I completely fell apart I finished visiting class I barely ate anything certainly nothing healthy I finished studying I just stopped caring about the world literally couldn't get out of it which I never thought of until years later at weeding changed my life because I accustomed be still reading there's one thing that's brought me through everything which I happen to return to a choice on out up the varsity newspaper which i opened it up and there was this full-page ad it absolutely was this perfect white sandy beach turquoise water big green.

Palm tree and across the highest of the ad it said escape students needed for summertime jobs within the state so I escaped I went down there and one night my friend Kevin and that I we hopped into a car after dropping off a client so we're taking place this road 85 miles an hour during this car and therefore the windows were open which air was coming in this amazing humid if you have been within the Caribbean that just Gorgeous amazing humid air is coming in then we stumbled on a corner we take that corner 85 miles an hour in this corner became the turning point to place.

My feet on this stage for you today Kevin grabs the wheel he goes hold on and that I brace and therefore the car starts sliding sideways which weird picture show thing happens Kevin's gripping the wheel trying to form the corner and every one sudden smack once I came to I looked over and Kevin is screaming the highest of his lungs kiai car burn the key on the car and that i look over and a full big chunk of his head is open so I pull myself out of the windshield this car and he's screaming up here and that I get up eventually on the hood of the car and that I look and that I know it's all this blood on me and that I remember just looking down which movie things happening I just thought did I even matter.

I start seeing of these images of my life when I'm surrounded by those who I look after there is a cake ahead of me here's my friends singing my mom leading him which goofy saw there's my sister just swinging and smiling right next to me and it causes you to wonder did I really like did I really like openly and honestly and completely or did I wait and see is that.

One time I got hurt and just I used to be on the point of pass out I notice a glint sort of a sparkle some shiny a mirrored image within the blood going off the hood the car and it made me research and there was this bright big beautiful moon that night and that I just immediately felt this connection if like I knew I used to be gonna be okay and that I felt just like the big guy upstairs reach right down to me and handed me life's golden ticket he reached down said here you go kid you are still alive you'll still love and matter but now you recognize the clock is ticking mortality motivation I got may be a 19 year old kid people say why you so successful Mike I got mortality motivation once I was 19 that's a blessing the general public do not get.

That till they're 60 don't be concerned Kevin and that i we both survived see I'm still here yeah it's okay I made it but the one thing that I took off from that entire thing was that moment and people questions because I remembered them and that i considered them as I used to be healing us like what was that about why did I feel so unhappy therewith moment cuz I assumed you recognize within the last moments of life there must be this transcendence and that i wasn't happy and that i realized it absolutely was due to how I'd been living my.

Life and that I wasn't living to my questions I knew I got those questions did I live did I really like did I matter as soon as I got those were the questions I'm gonna evaluate myself with at the tip of the life it gave me the ability of what my late mentor Wayne Dyer taught the ability of intention that breath you simply took feel it what a blessing that's you bought that life what a blessing is you bought that breath meaning you continue to got something inside you bought to figure for it you bought to contribute for it you bought to provide for it you bought a lead for it you bought a love for it because you continue to have something not just in you are still here for a reason and now you only have to be compelled to earn that blessing Noor my parents biggest frustration was that I used to be epically lazy and if they handed out gold medals for being lazy I'd have won I assure you handily because while i used to be a rather chubby kid growing up during a morbidly obese family in Tacoma Washington.

I always knew two things about myself sooner or later I used to be gonna be rich and that i was gonna have six-pack abs like those are the 2 things is that child that was you recognize jiggling his belly thinking in some unspecified time in the future I'm not gonna need to suck in my gut once I left for school my very own mother who'd always been my biggest cheerleader quietly assumed I used to be visiting fail for these two guys that were successful entrepreneurs and bodybuilders happened to run into a category after I was a coach and that they were just starting a technology start-up and that they said hey we'd like a copywriter why don't you come be a copywriter then I used to be just young enough and just dumb enough and that I went all-in they literally put me within the room with all the pc servers but ranging from there I knew I could wow people because I used to be willing to grind it out and that we all have a superpower and my superpower is also the willingness and talent to endure suffering I had suffered plenty I hadn't taken every day off in like six and a half years because I used to be so hell-bent to urge rich then I noticed almost eight and a half years in I had finally had enough I had hit my edge from suffering and that I got so mad and that I was so unwilling to try to it anymore and that I turned to my partners and that I say I'm completely miserable I quit.

I realized the explanation I used to be living the cliché of cash can't buy happiness along the way had become so myopically focused on this promise I had made my to myself as a child that I never stopped to ask why do I need to induce rich the questions you ask yourself will determine the course of your life I had been asking myself what do I want to try and do to urge rich and it left me really unhappy so I changed the question and that I started asking what would I do and love each day whether or not I were failing life is simply too short this is often your one go-round so what are we gonna do we're gonna build a company that's predicated on value we're gonna build an organization that's predicated on passion I started brooding about my mom and my sister but they were profoundly overweight I started thinking.

About my uncle who ate himself to death after I was 12 years old and the way much that scared me and it made me sad and it made me sad to work out that there have been millions if less than a billion people that were within the same quite abusive relationship with food that my mom and my sister were so I said I do not know if it is a business sector but I do know it is a big problem and that's the matter that we're gonna solve then we decided to create a very new reasonably company we started quest nutrition in 2010 even as we were kicking off of the nice Recession I used to be wearing a hairnet and a coat daily and my employees were former gang members ex drug dealers felons we were in Compton and that we literally told everybody within the neighbourhood I do not care if you have been convicted of a criminal offense.

I just want to grasp if you're willing to bust your ass to alter your life and if you’re gonna get an interview and I am not gonna kindle your resume I do not care about your resume your resume tells me where you have been it doesn't tell me the value you're willing to pay to become somebody new every belief that you just have could be a choice I select to believe that human potential is nearly limitless and this was the idea that changed my life because once I spotted so it is not about who you're today.

It's about who you wish to come back and therefore the price you're willing to pay to induce there and a promise e the day that you're willing to pay any price you'll achieve what you wish to attain if you truly believe that human potential is limitless what does one want to become and what price are you willing to pay to induce there gives you better sex increases your good cholesterol gives you more friends gives you more meaning engagement life satisfaction and happiness if you've got a "Purpose Driven Life".

It adds years to your life you reside longer let me share two stories with you Story darling we're interviewing one among those schoolteachers she says the primary year I taught was heaven the second year I taught was hell I had five boys that second year and that they were incorrigible and there was one kid particularly he was impossible.

One day this kids within the doorway of the classroom and he's kicking and moving his arms and making noises and that I lost it, he's she said I'm ashamed to mention these words but I walked towards that child with the intention of kicking him thank heavens he got up and ran away I kept walking I visited the principal's office I said this can be it it's him or me and also the principal took the child ale she said I felt terrible so I visited to my colleagues and poured my heart up and that they said to me you're not the key to each door and as she sent those words she burst into tears within the invar and that we waited an extended time and so she found and said I hated that those words you cannot be the key to each door she said so I made a decision to become the key to each door rather than pushing disruptive kids away I started to hunt them out I started bringing them into my world I read every book I could find.

I kept notes I ran experiments I kept notes on the experiments then she reasonably pulled herself up and said today I'm the key to each door when there is a disruptive troubled kid in class is give her to me so Assoc seems to grasp what to try to with them that's a profoundly important story it is a story of transformative learning after I have the next purpose I find the energy and therefore the courage to travel outside my temperature now the second story's plenty closer to home I once had a daughter she was single she was living in Washington DC she had reached that time in life where she said there's none not an honest man left on the world then she found.

One and she or he got really excited relationship grew so in the future our phone rang she's rebuke a mother and that i know what is going on this guy just dumped her this daughter's the firstborn child many firstborn children share a typical characteristic if they're miserable they require you to be miserable too and she or he said I'm coming home this weekend no her mother hangs up and says you're the father you head to the airport and pick her up oh therefore the next day I'm going pick her up she gets within the car and he or she doesn't say hello how are you she says that no-good dirty Don about five minutes later she takes a breath and that I say you problem solving a purpose finding we're finally pulling within the driveway she takes another breath I say.

It again she said what are you talking about and he or she said this is often the important world I said boy they get a taste of the 000 world right then we're within the house I pull out a sheet of paper out of my file and it says Robert Quinn life state she looks at it then she grows quite quiet and he or she looks up and says after you feel bad you read this I said no after I feel bad I rewrite it's been rewritten many times yeah I can hardly understand a number of these things he said yeah it's written to a custom heights audience one person then the primary miracle happened she said does one think I could write one amongst these I said.

I'm sure you'll be able to she went within the bedroom for on a daily basis and a half she worked on her life statement the miracle was I failed to should suffer she cut on the plane she flew home to DC a pair days pass I buy an email she he called me all this may be interesting and she or he says so I wrote him this letter and I am reading this letter that she's attached it's incredibly vulnerable hope honest and then at the underside it says and my roommate said I cannot give this down now that's a motivating thing why can't we give this letter to the current guy you do not tell some guy that talked to you that you simply know like here's how you are feeling and so she said what my roommates don't understand is that what he thinks doesn't matter who wait a moment some days ago what.

He thought caused her life to shatter now she's saying what he thinks doesn't matter she's saying this is often who I actually am didn't know this a long time ago now I do know it doesn't matter what people think you see after you clarify your purpose you're taking back your external locus of control where you are concerned about what others think and you're taking it successively focus you don't become insensitive you do not become rebellious you become sin you become power now here's the interesting thing within the next few months she began to be promoted her career turn why this was a dating breakup why is her career starting because after you find purpose and meaning and what you're doing in one area of your life.

It grows in every area of life because you're one individual that company had a girl coming in with the identical dresses on body looked the identical but it wasn't the identical employee this was a girl now full of leadership for the primary time when someone has that meaning which integrity things start to alter the research says once you surrender self-interested goals where most people are mostly done and you're taking on contributed goals you function differently the biology changes the thought processes learning accelerates you grow more the sole thing that I'm left to conclude is you and that I are designed to P be purpose seeking mechanisms.

You've been shaped by life you've had bad experiences and good experiences and both the bad experiences and therefore the good experiences are there to show you something about you and if you look very carefully at those you'll determine what your purpose is every one during this room can clarify the aim of their life become the key to each door mic scream grenade out and jump down and boom two snipers were providing over watch for the opposite platoon that were trying to maneuver and unbeknownst to Mike and people guys an insurgent had seen where they were firing had snuck up next to the side of that building pulled out a grenade pull it and threw it up which thing came right up boom and hit Mike on the chest P.O. Mike.

Monsour took all of that blast in his face in his chest he lasted for one more 35 minutes before he died on the medevac bird out the kicker of this story is there was a stairwell right next to mine right next to him and every one he had to try and do is jump down that stairwell to avoid wasting his own life but he didn't he turned and jumped on th grenade sacrificing himself so his two brothers could both head home and hug their wives kiss their children and fight another day.

Once you're thinking that to yourself what would you are doing for 70 years us sailor boy team we've been pushing the envelope we've been setting the bar we've been setting the quality for what the team life is and the way you ought to live are you actually committed to yourself physically because we all know when the going gets tough the more in shape the more focus you're and what you eat and what you consume the higher you're I spent 15 months within the frigid waters of the Pacific Ocean to the mountains of Afghanistan on seven different occasions and to the shores of Haiti doing missionary work with my church and what I've learned during this incredible journey are some undeniable truths about what enables us to succeed now truth number.

One is you bought fear in your heart always and you cannot defeat it everybody's like well that's a bummer the matter is women and gentlemen is you're wired for fear right a part of our life we've it in what we do for a living right you discuss fear in your lives and your personalized together with your family folks we have got fear period so what you have got to be told to try and do is embrace it truth one the second is self-confidence is big it is important and you bought to forge it every single day the third one is you bought to measure with purpose if you do not have purpose in your life you do not have momentum you do not have anything driving you forward anything pulling you out of bed every single day and therefore the last one and therefore the one.

I learned that left an indelible mark not only in my heart but in my soul on those beaches across the road the road over there there's nobody does it alone there's not one person during this whole room at once that may raise their hand and say you recognize what right, I've done it alone not one person out there has helped me not a 1 we all need help so as a result of that you simply need to recognize that you simply need to live what I call to you you've got to be 100% focus that everything you're thinking that about everything you are doing is with some other person like a team amen right we've been giving everything we are to our communities to our families to our kids but more importantly we're willing to relinquish everything we are and potentially everything we'll ever be for the person that's next thereto this can be the team life this is often what my mission here is today is to assist you understand this standard to assist you redefine your understanding of what that mission might seem like for you're you acting on are you acting on it immediately did you're employed thereon today are you gonna go work on that tonight because I tell you what those three things you're on the road commitment.

I've worked with all types of person there's on this planet we all bleed bread what I care about is there's something that gets you out of bed every morning there's something that you simply have faith in that's bigger than yourself there's something that you're willing to sacrifice for one more individual that's powerful.